Q: I feel as though I am at an impasse with my parents. They are both in frail health — heart disease, arthritis, difficulty getting around, breathing problems — I could go on forever.
They live in a large two story home with the bedrooms and one bathroom upstairs. Neither one of them can climb stairs very well.
It is not the best setting for them in my opinion. I worry about them and try to check on them as often as possible but frankly I can’t get over there all the time. They are not asking for help — I just don’t want to walk in and find a disaster some day.
They will not spend any money on repairs or updates to make living there easier and they will not even consider moving to a more accessible or supportive living environment. Do I just let them stay and risk injury or is there a way I can force the subject? (From a son in Waunakee).