Q I am concerned about my mother who is in her late 70s. She lives alone and is quite independent. She recently started having some health problems related to high blood pressure, swelling, and fatigue.
The doctor placed her on some medication and is closely monitoring her for which I am thankful. Since I live in a different county, I am not able to be there as often as I would like but we talk frequently and she assures me that she is following the doctor’s advice.
My concern is related to her diet. She insists on eating the same foods every day, which consists of TV dinners, soup, and sandwiches.
I would like her to eat more nutritious foods that are lower in salt but since I am not there to help her prepare them, I don’t think I can be too critical of her intake.
Are there any healthier options or support for people in these situations? I know she will not want to make a big meal since she lives alone. (From a daughter in Kenosha)
A You are right to be concerned. Her diet may undo some of the benefits of the medications she is now taking. Soup, TV dinners, and sandwiches are quick and easy options but most brands are loaded with salt.
Fortunately there are some healthier choices. Depending on where your mother lives she may be able to receive a home delivered meal through the local senior center.
These meals are prepared at a variety of sites and delivered to the home by volunteers. The meals are generally low sodium — but it is always good to check with the site that coordinates the deliveries. She would not have to receive a meal every day but she may substitute some of her usual meals with the home delivered ones.
Another added benefit to this is that each day your mother receives a meal, someone is checking on her. She may also be able to go to the senior center for a meal; this is a great way to encourage socializing — she may even meet some new friends.
Sometimes there are other factors that should be considered. Eating is a very social activity and it can lose its appeal when you are always eating alone. This might call for a visit and a good conversation about what is really happening.
Your mother might be having issues with vision, or her confidence with using the stove.
Whatever the issue is, there are ways to get better, more nutritious foods for her so the medications can work their best.
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Jean Mueller has been a registered nurse for over 30 years. Her experience includes working in home care settings, skilled nursing care, and training individuals to become certified nursing assistants. For the past 13 years she has worked in the Aging Services department of the Madison Diocese Catholic Charities.